hi skee,

i think that though many people have read the post they may be apprehensive about posting an opinion because it is always difficult to give an opinion when it comes down to relationships. you know the whole "no one should get involved" theory.
i understand that you have the desire to reconstruct the relationship with your husband and start over. however, based on the information you provided i don't see how he has changed. i know you've stated that you want to do this for your daughter as well. but have you given any thought to how your husband's behavior will affect her? he may be ideal for the short time he spends with her. but if he hasn't changed, don't you think that he is a negative example for your daughter. i am a mother of 2 boys and also suffer from bipolar disorder. and yes i agree that bipolar disorder has affected relationships in my life. however, you provided more than enough information as to how your husband's behavior affected your marriage. have you given any thought to how his behavior affects you, especially given your diagnosis? ultimately it is your decision to make. and you are the only one who can decide if after all thats happened a reconciliation is worth it. the only thing i would stress is whether or not a reconciliation will actually benefit your daughter. remember children are reflections of their parents. i would imagine that you want to raise your daughter in a positive atmosphere where she will learn that she is of value and does not have to put up with the nonsense of a partner who is not worth it. i wish you the best of luck.

-agony