Candika ,
I don't know the answers to your questions. But I wanted to let you know that I am struggling with them at the moment too. Coersion, force, consensual, age differentials, physical harm vs. emotional harm...what later decisions were related not related.

I'm starting to get that verbalization and feeling it maybe be important to actually accepting it and healing. But I just can imagine, even after a year of therapy, ever being about to put word to what is going on in my head.