bluenarciss,

OMG! what you wrote in your post hit home for me. i have been thinking alot about my relationships with people. i am currently seperated and now that we are not together i enjoy having sex with him! the comment you made about it being easier to have sex with your ex is so true, at least in my case. i find that in relationships i always have to have the upper hand. i can easily detach myself emotionally. i find that everything is swell when i go through the "infatuation" phase of the relationship. then when it gets more serious i want to run. i have been with my husband for 7+ years and though he is no angel, i have dropped him like a hat whenever i want to. i know that this is unfair to him. i am coming to realize that it is not only his fault that i am the one who always wants her freedom and do not want to compromise my so called "happiness" for the relationship. i feel i really need help. i am not sure if i am narcissitic, what do you think?

katie,
i know this is your thread sorry for imposing on it. did you know that your husband had an affair with his ex-wife before marrying him? i agree that you shouldn't allow him to treat you the way that he does. you may want to look into some community resources if you are prepared to leave him. i know you mentioned that you take care of the household, you didn't mention whether or not you are employed, are you? i can imagine how difficult this must be for you and your children. i agree with one of the posters that you must take charge for the sake of your children. you are the one who must protect them. your husband should not be allowed to mistreat the children. i wish you the best of luck.

agony