I have dithered on whether I should reply to this thread or not as my reply is about somone elses experience and not mine but here goes.

A friend of mine has a son who was diagnosed at the age of thirty as having Aspergers it took a long while to get him diagnosed because one we are in the UK and everything is hard here and two it was not as well known when he was growing up, he was dismissed as somone who had no sense of humour and learning difficulties.

Then crunch came when one day he grabbed his dad by the neck held a knife up to him and said dad lets just end this now for both of us lets just die together what do you think ? Dad was very upset son was very upset dad managed to calm this grown man of over six feet two.

They went to the Drs and explained everthing to him and asked for a phychiatrist which they got and was diagnosed as Aspergers. (this all took some time)

After some looking into it they found a place that looks after people like his son and allows them to cook and clean and shop for themselves under supervision, although it was several hundred miles away son is now happy at having his own independance and is keen to get back to his 'flat' after visiting mum and dad.

So in their case it was and is a happy ending.

I hope this has encouraged you to see there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Love Trish.