MJ: Don't do it. Don't beg, or reason, or even ask for what's due you as a human being. Don't bargain with them. What is your right in the first place --- was never theirs to give. Understand that.

I've seen what goes on here. People are rewarded for assuming a supplicating posture. People are NOT encouraged to hold one's head up and express the normal feelings of anger and resentment caused by those who are treating adults like preschoolers, insulting and repressing them.

It's bound to cause anger, when injustice and bigotry are acceptable and considered "perfectly fine" --- and blowing the whistle on that bad stuff is punished by the thought police --- unless it's done in a whiny "Please-don't-hurt-me-again!" manner.

Never permit it, MJ. Never allow it in a million years. If someone arrogantly suggests that it might be all right if you speak about your beloved in the relationship forum --- that person should take a flying leap and go enroll herself in a condescension management class. You don't "need" anyone's permission.

ZH: You're mistaken. Here they do deny one the right to express one's feelings. We have the thought police, and censorship is rampant. We all know how to avoid punishment by wearing a hangdog expression and a penitent, hurt look, while begging. Otherwise, one may be sent to Coventry. But is it worth the loss of self-respect? Under the circumstances, some might consider it a badge of honor if they don't fit in. Just my thoughts on the matter.

Adieu