I saw your message yesterday and was searching for answers and hoping they would appear in LMo's head and she would write them up.

It looks like that happy thing happened!

Seriously, that is a monumental problem you have! I don't think you are going to get "the" answer. As has been put forward so many times in these forums, you have to take this problem down to it's smallest parts and move thru them with baby steps.

Geez I wish you, and others here, were not so darn far apart and we could get together for a pot luck or drinks now and then.

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