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I'm sorry hun for missing your post from yesterday I looked again but still don't see it...well anyways....here you are

When I read your post..the words that first came to my mind were self-esteem and self -confidence .....You need to boost your confidence level up a notch by looking at all the wonderful qualities that you do have.

Write down all of your personality traits....I have a few just from knowing you here.....

Caring
Generous
Funny
Supportive
Intelligent
Creative
Friendly.....now remember these are traits that I have noticed about you ...there are so many more ok?

Now after you write down those positives....write down some of the negatives/issues that you can see you want to work on......again i jotted down a couple here....

Trust....learn to trust yourself.
Appearance.....learn to love who you are.
Confidence.....learn to be more assertive (not in an intimidating way)
Independence.....learn that is it ok to reach out.

What you can do when you have your list is to start working on short term goals with some of those negatives (actually I don't like using the word negative in any personality trait...just haven't come up with a word yet

Say for example....Short term goal - making a new friend ....process...smile at the clerk at the make up counter at the mall.....start a conversation about my interest in makeup.

This is just an example...I know you have so much to offer someone...another thought too....are you making any plans on visiting the US ? Do you think that may be possible? The only reason I ask is that you seem to have such difficulty adjusting to Norway...would it be an idea?



Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown