royksop, a lot of your symptoms sound similar to ones characteristic of ADHD. My PNP explained to me that ADHD is often present along with depression and/or anxiety, so it can be difficult to tease out exactly what symptoms are caused by what. You may not even need to figure it all out, but instead work on symptom reduction. If a therapy or medication helps you, then it may not really matter what your exact diagnosis is. I would advise going to a medical practitioner who is experienced in diagnosing ADHD as well as depression, etc. If you want to go the meds route, the practitioner could start you on a med that may help your symptoms and if it doesn't, try something else. A therapist could help you with behavioral approaches to your symptoms. I've been reading some books on ADHD and trying to follow some of their behavioral recommendations to help with my symptoms. I've also been taking a med that is often prescribed for ADHD and depression. I think I've learned that there's not going to be one magic pill or approach that is a cure-all for my symptoms.

Good luck!