((((((((((((((((( jinnyann, pegasus & all )))))))))))))))))))))))))

While I do not have DD or DID, I have been blessed (and yes that is the correct word!!) to have in my life some of the most wonderful people with DD and/or DID. I say blessed, because the lessons I have learned from all of you are lessons I will never forget....I will always keep them close to me.

What I have learned is that no matter how parted one is, I have never met a part, no matter how angry or upset that wasn't able to, at the very least, try to understand the concept of love, even if only on a very basic level. That being said, this has been what my experience with DD/DID has been thus far.

Having had this experience of my own, I can relate to Lenny's comment that love can bring us through the most difficult of times, even when one doesn't feel it from within themselves. And peg, I can also understand your statement that it is very difficult to get the parts to come together and feel loved either within the system or from outside of the system.

Maybe what is truly important is when one or more parts can learn about love and its great power in healing.....some of the other parts (if not all) over time can also learn how love can be a positive emotion/feeling for them to learn. I would imagine that many things must come into alignment in order for that to happen....but I certainly don't see it as an impossible task.

Call me an optomist....or someone wearing rose colored glasses, I don't mind....but I have seen with my own two lookers and being heart to heart with some parts, exactly what can happen when they were given the chance to speak, the chance to be heard, to be validated and to be loved. It was nothing short of an amazing and wonderful process, and one that I was blessed to have been and continue to be, a part of.

The human mind is something that can do the impossible....it can work to keep a child safe and it can also work to learn, grasp and understand through love and respect.

xoxoxo
sabby