Jinnyann, I'm glad you shared some of your story, I can relate some and I think it is important you have your say.
I've been married 17 years now and still haven't found the peace in that he loves me, One or two part s of me knows very well he's totally in love with me, but that's that!
It is the little one that are so sad, Is it because they're still stuck in the past or the memories? Or both? I know now that playing with my kids all the time did help some with my young part. I think maybe before I had kids she was much younger, but now, around an eight year old.