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Old Aug 14, 2008, 03:54 AM
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DePressMe,

No, you don't have to get all the doggies or the farm....lol. I think that it's a mindset we need to get in where ever we are......sometimes it's harder like I said, in California, I was surrounded consantly by things that weren't good, including the marriage. So leaving that surrounding was necessary to break the pattern & habits along with getting me away from where the trauma happned......clearing my mind from that setting, since most of my mental problems are based on situational happenings.

I do believe that we can however change our thinking into enjoying the minutes that are wonderful throughout out days & get lost in the beauty & joy of the moment.....when we string them all together & don't forget to enjoy them, then they really do become the majoriity of the day & at the end of the day, we realize just how good life really is.

It does take constant reminding sometimes......i know sitting back & thinking about all the fixing that has to be done on this house & how I am not even moved into it after a year, gets to me a lot of the time.......then I sat down in my family room, looking out on the deck, there was a cute little chipmunk scurring around finding little things to eat, with the trees of my woods in the background.......& the beauty constantly strikes me & I thank God for all the beauty I have surrounding me rather than all the work that I have to do to finish the house.

I also have a 90 year old friend.....she has lived here since 1946 & has owned horses & a farm.....never married. She has completely plumbed her previous house & barn, she still has 2 horses, 4 llamas, & 4 emus & 5 cats she cares for everyday. In the past, when she was younger, she put up all the fencing around her farm & painted it, she has her own tractor & bush hog that she would use to mow her pastures & on top of that, she built her own boat for on the Kentucky river. Just knowing her gives one energy to live & a love for life. On top of that, her first job was in a mental hospital all those years ago. She cared for the people in there which was much different than th normal treatment at that time......without a college education, she did more for those people than all the educated professionals could have ever done......giving them respect.. After years of working there, she also spent time working in the historical society here, learning much about the Shakers & all the other historical information in our area......her love & enthusiasm for life is what keeps her going along with her religious beliefs that are a huge part of her life. It definitely gives one the understanding of how wonderful life can really be...it's all in the way we look at it.

Debbie
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