thanks guys for your responses. i really appreciate them. i was beginning to doubt myself. don't get me wrong, of course i hurt and grieve the loss for a while. but i try to recoup by distracting myself and focusing on what was wrong with the relationship in the first place. i mean there is usually something off that causes the relationship to end. so i focus on the rough patches so i can get over the person. lol i know that may be mean, but it's self preservation at it's best for me at least. right now i am trying to decide whether or not to save my marriage. my hub and i have been seperated since late march. it was my decision to ask for a divorce. but things have occured that have me rethinking that decision. so we will see what happens. wish me luck.

-agony