Sunrise,

I think this is a great idea. It will show your daughter that you really care about certain things and are willing to do whatever it takes to solve them.

When my son was young we consulted a child psychologist, who saw my son and then me and my husband separately. He helped us with parenting skills and tips for a rather hyper little guy.

My older son has been in with H to see my T but that was a one time only event.

I think you are doing what you have to and the only possible solution would be a separate T. Clearly your daughter needs her own T (she's been going for quite a while now). And by going to an independent therapist, her relationship with her T won't be compromised.

Goood luck.