My intent when first starting therapy was to have one T who dealt with all of us. I met with her first to check things out and to see if I could work with her. Then my son and I had a join session so he could meet and get comfortable with her etc... then he 2 had a sessions alone with her, where I was debriefed immediately following. Then my H had a session with her. For our situation this arrangement was VERY effective is addressing some of the key problems in our home. If I have another problem with my kids, I think I could revert back to this arrangement if necessary and be comfortable. HOWEVER, there is no way at this point would I be able to handle my H seeing her again. His session was very effective in getting him to see what he was doing...but it created a BIG rupture between us and between me and my T that took a long time to overcome.

Sunrise, it sounds like you have given this a lot of thought and are looking for a particular skill set. I'm sure you will find the right combination for your family.