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_sabby_ said:
Thats a really good question ((((((((complic8d))))))))))))))

I wonder if you could ask her what she would like to do (as long as it's safe). I don't think you have to be objective to allow her to express herself. You certainly don't have to understand what she needs to get out right now. But I look at it in the same way I would want to help a friend deal with their emotions and thoughts. They deserve to be able to express themselves to help get it out...why not allow your young one the same advantage?

I don't know if allowing her to do the stuff that her age likes to do will help her feel sad/angry/empowered/settled, but nothing ventured, nothing gained I wonder too if she is allowed to express herself, you may learn more about her and be able to create a closer relationship with her. Maybe some understanding will happen in time.

I hope I'm not way off base on this.


sabby

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COMPLIC8D,

I think what Sabby said sounds like what my littles would like. I think they just wanta be heard and they don't have to make any sense to the grownup me. I spent so much time squashing them (out of fear of them) and that just made everyone miserable. I think they want just what I want - I WANT SOMBODY TO LISTEN TO ME AND NOT SAY SHUT UP YOU!!!

I'm starting to like my littles a lot, but I'm still afraid to let them out when my spouse is home. He's not a creep, but he doesn't accept us. He's uptight ****** Retentive. sigh...= ( yep we wanna be herd!!! yea me!