Thanks, EM, MissC, and Chaotic. MissC and chaotic, I found it heartening to hear of your positive experiences with different family members in family therapy. I guess my limited experience with this has also been positive, as I have seen my therapist alone, with my H for couples therapy, and once with the whole family. But I am glad I am not going to do the mother-daughter therapy with him. I think I need someone else for that. I need my own T right now for just me, for support in the divorce, and for any emergency couples work, if H and I should need it.

When the new family therapist called me today, he made an assumption and asked if I wanted to come in for couples therapy with my H. I said no, it was me and my teenage daughter. He asked if I was in a married situation, and I said no, separated, in the process of getting a divorce. He then asked if my daughter's father would be coming to therapy too. I said no. My own therapist asked me the same thing earlier this week, was my H going to go to therapy with us. No! I am sick of my H. I don't need him involved in this too. I am having problems with my daughter and I want to improve things for our family, the family that lives in my house. If my H has problems with our daughters, he can initiate therapy with them. Sheeesh, sometimes I feel like a child and people think I can't do anything without my H. I am a grown woman and I don't need my H to go to therapy with me and my daughter, just like I don't need him to carry out the garbage or mow the lawn. My daughter and I can work on our problems ourselves.

Hmmmm.... Something tells me I have "issues."