Jo, I live in Tampa and have for 21 years. I spent my first 22 years in your neck of the woods, Cherry Hill, N.J. Location plays a minor part in some areas like you said but not where I've lived.

I know there are many factors in attraction.

Many can be lacking and there will still be attraction.

Physical attraction is that ONE THING that can't be left out for any kind of sexual or romantic relaionship to start. That's a fact that can't be denied.

Too many times, I've seen men who are negative, have zero personality or sense of humor, are mean, and abusive yet they STILL can attract women.

Why is that? (drum roll, please......)

Because they have SEX appeal in their physical make up.

You know, maybe "ugly" isn't even the most accurate word I should be using for myself and that may be where some misunderstanding is.

As I think I just mentioned recently, there's simply no sex appeal to my physical make up. My face has a "dull" look about it that makes no woman want to get near me.

BINGO! I think I've finally clarified it!

So yes, I guess it's possible someone for more "ugly" in the commonly accepted definition of the word to be able to find a woman because they still have something I don't - physical sex appeal.

Kimmydawn, I really should take your advice and try to look at the other positive things but that will not take away the pain and frustration. Nothing ever will.