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I just ask "little me" what she wants and I try to give it to her.

There are all sorts of repercussions for this. The rest of me doesn't feel "deserving" of that kind of care, and I often respond to this kind of care with some other really negative behaviors.

I think when no one has taken care of us, it's hard for us to know how to take care of ourselves.

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Hi EM, it sounds like you haven't quite yet really embraced your inner child but you are working on it!

When I was doing this I figured out why I wouldn't embrace her and this is the answer that I came up with for myself. I thought that my mom wouldn't love me anymore if I took care of myself. I developed this thought as a small child spending time with my mom. All children want to please their parents and I guess I figured with my little child mind at that time if she wasn't paying attention to me that this is what she thought was important and I should do the same or she wouldn't be happy. Once I made this connection as an adult and then was able to throw it away because it isn't logical at all, I was finally able to embrace my inner child and finally take care of myself and my needs.