It's helpful when we can learn to ask for clarification from the T. Why did you say that? What did you mean last session when you said that? etc. That is so hard. This happens with me and sometimes I just don't ask. I don't know why. Maybe it doesn't seem puzzling at the time and then the moment is past. Or maybe I think if I ask him, he will be annoyed or think I'm dumb for not understanding or reject me. Or whatever. Who knows the crazy reasons we are scared to ask for clarification. But I find that the longer you know your therapist, and more you trust him/her, the easier it gets. When I have asked for clarification, I have always gotten very straightforward and reasonable answers. This gives me the confidence not to doubt in the future and to freely ask for clarification. This is a skill that can lead to better relationships elsewhere too.

missboots, I hope at next session you can ask what your T meant by tension. It is OK to just ask her to spell it out.