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That must have been a very difficult position for you to be in. To answer your question about what you were thinking......how about survival? We do what we need to do to survive.....even though in our hearts we may realize it's wrong morally....but survival will win over morality many many times.

I say go for it.....apologize to this woman. I don't know how she will respond. She may decide to continue being angry and holding a grudge, or she may soften and accept your apology. Either way, you will have been able to say to her what you've wanted to say for a good long time.

In the mean time, consider your intent when the issue went down. If your intent was to survive whatever your husband might have thrown at you if you did not do as he demanded....then the onus is on him. Unfortunately, we are judged by others wrongly, especially if they do not understand why we have done them wrong. We cannot always control that part.

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sabby