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.....i think it would have made me feel better that mum knows, but i have to think of A here .... she could do without my mother in her life again .........

i was just thinking that if a friend of mine was ill and i hadn't been in touch i would want to know, but my mother is a different person to me ...... i'm not going to contact her ...

ty for the advice .... Jinny x