Pachyderm, could you share your thoughts on this with your T and explore why you think he is having countertransference? He could clarify or explain why he praises, etc., that it is not due to an insincere motive, etc., and perhaps reassure you. Or he could say, hey, you're right, I am overpraising you. This is because I was never praised as a child. Or whatever. (Or he probably wouldn't give details of his past but would just acknowledge the countertransference is occurring.)

When my T gets some countertransference going on, he acknowledges it to me, names it, etc., to make sure we both know what is going on. By acknowledging it like that, the countertransference becomes somehow disarmed.

Could you just be forthright with him to help clarify things? Possibly he doesn't know what is going on simply because he doesn't know (or because that is not what is going on), not because he is actively refusing to recognize a part of your interaction. You could help your therapy by filling him in on what you believe is happening.

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What should I do in this case? Should I run away; should I lash out at him?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Those two options sound like opposites. How about stepping into the middle and explaining your point of view and asking for clarification in a non-judgmental way? Give him the benefit of the doubt and wait to hear his response. If you need to get angry, then do, but maybe his explanation will help remove your feeling of wanting to lash out.

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It feels as though I am being forced to confront things in a little-too-uncontrolled or unsafe a way than I am comfortable with.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">What can your T do to make it safe for you? My T sometimes asks me that. Share your ideas with him.

This sounds so hard for you. I think direct and clear communication is really important here. Best of luck.