it's true kiya... caring support allows us to learn to roll with things, endure negative experiences as just negative experiences and not as trauma.. to learn we can conquer them and not the other way around. We learn to grow and be strong. Without it though.. well, we know the result, we shrink back and become fearful and in pain inside.

much of the trauma brought onto children could be turned into negative, albeit terrible, experiences. But reality is that the adults bungle it more than not, if they aren't the purpetrators themselves i mean. Teachers, parents, counselors, etc... many hands through which sand runs. In the end the larger message becomes reinforcing of the trauma and not the love for the child. That voice of caring tells us we matter.

i am so happy for you Kiya, what a positive learning experience for you!