hey lovey...

maybe you can shift how you are thinking about this from the get-go... like maybe you are still viewing it through the same lens. This isn't therapy about your own deeper issues, even though it cant be entirely removed from them, you can maybe try to file them away for dealing with T. Maybe you can see this as about "us" rather than "you." Not trying to be critical, seriously.

i'm just thinking that maybe due to your own therapy and doing individual therapy with others, maybe you have sort of predefined therapy and have conditioned responses?

one thing is to take notes to stay grounded and then have those for your own T. i doodle, but hey, whatever works.

im sorry it's hard. Personally i will never go to marriage therapy again - ever. i mean, if or when i remarry. It was such a disaster that i personally will never do it. Our situation was far different however, so you know i don't mean to say that should apply to everyone.

much love