I've read in many posts here, and I've been told it myself, "anybody else in your situation would have left a long time ago." What do you do with that information? How do you decide if the difference between you and this "anybody else" is that you're way stronger than them or you just too weak or scared or insecure or uncertain to do anything but stay? How strong is it to stay in a situation when you've been lied to and cheated on and you end up feeling like maybe it was something you did. maybe it's something that you're doing that has caused the problems? Is the memory of the relationship that once was so great enough to hold on to? Or is it just a dream to think it will come back?