Thanks for all your feedback! As far as the articles go, I wasn't referring to any particular one, but the articles and responses to them as a whole. They offer tips on self-help, and help fot the consumer to navigate through the searching process. I think mostly Dr. Grohol's articles were on the top of my list. It was very important for me to learn that personality fit DOES matter, and it's not uncommon to find a string of bad therapists or ones that don't fit.

By my therapists withholding key information like that contained in Psyche Central's articles and website,(that I am a consumer and it's okay for me to not fit with a therapist or even many therapists) from me, and by turning my own need to seek therapy for relationships against me when I was simply searching for a healthy fit has really left it's mark on me. The complexity of my relationship issues and search for a therapist have really had a synergistic effect on me.

While it's okay and perfectly acceptable to "do it yourself" these days with medical issues, it's more complicated when it's a personal issue with your doctor or therapist. This article 3 Minute Therapy points out that their ARE other options for people "desiring a scientific, present-focused, and active treatment for coping with life’s difficulties, rather than one which is mystical, historical, and largely passive" http://psychcentral.com/lib/2008/three-minute-therapy/ I was grateful to read exactly what I had been trying to say all along. I'm finding therapy to be TOO mystical, historical, and largely passive.
It also mentions Dr Ellis who I have had a session with. I seems that I cannot find a balance here and the experts are taking sides. I'm afraid I'm slipping through cracks, so to speak, which is the identical problem I find in my real life. Talk about transference! So I don't disregard my "mother issues" at all, regardless of what my therapists think.

The info on Humanistic therapy is very interesting and something I will definitely be looking into when I come to terms with these issues. I was hoping someone specific, perhaps, would help me bridge the gap. Listening with unconditional positive regard, and placing high value on the mutualism of the therapeutic relationship sounds great, if only they would do that. I've heard each one make these claims before. My longtime therapists really did live up to those claims. It was hard to let go, but I knew I had to when I got to be too "mystical and passive". Several were Self psychologist and I find that it is largely the individual therapist and not just the schooling that determines how mutually respective they are.

Like I already said, "I know I need to move forward, but no one will listen to me". Funny you should mention it though, because it seems to be a trigger for them to think that's exactly what I need to do more work on. It's a no win situation there.

Life coaching is wonderful some of the times. I owe a lot of my wonderful existence to coaching (and my better therapists). My life is a well oiled machine, and I'm already pretty flexible and resourceful. I am not college educated, or even high school educated. I raised myself and do really well, always having several sources of income and contributing to the world around me immensely. I like coaching. That is probably why I like coaching so much. They are more likely to keep it real. But their comes a point when a coach can only do so much. I was mentally and emotionally abused as a child very much and I am making it on my own. It is hard to find people of the same sort, who aren't dysfunctional themselves or I may not have enough in common with, goals, interests and values to maintain a closeness or share a life with.