Sunrise, I think for me its not that I dont talk to the person its that I dont react to them. If they are in their own adult role then yes conversation takes place, but if they're coming from their child part, which we all can, myself included, then I then just use the smile that says, ok this is your stuff not mine. I think its allowing the idea that a person will eventually learn what is and what isn't acceptable to you and know that you are not expecting perfection from them, but you won't always play ball with them either. I think if we take the person as a whole and not just the parts of them that we find unacceptable then we remain in control of our own reactions to them? Of course there are times, eg, physical violence or threats of physical violence that cannot be tolerated and then taking yourself completely out of that relationship is the only mature action to take, but if its just a case of boundaire pushing and testing then its your own self you need to trust that you will surivive their pushing your boundaires?? I am by no means an expert on this at all!!!!