a little history...

my mom cheated on her common law husband of 20 years with a 72 year old man. she is 46 years old. this man promised to marry her and all. but when s^%$ hit the fan, and her husband found out and kicked her out of the house her "lover" brought her to my house along with my 8 year old brother. so i took her in. mind you, i didn't even consult this with my husband, i just told him "my mom is having problems with her husband and she is moving in with us. anyway, so this happened in november. so since then she and my brother have been living in my home. it caused a huge strain on my marriage that was already strained. and my husband and i were seperated in march and just recently got back together. well my mother helps out with the kids, taking care of them when they get out of school and such.
her lover is a controlling jerk. she has to call him every 2 hours. if she is off by a couple of minutes he will yell at her over the phone. by the way he lives in pa we are in ny. he comes to see her once a month, i think. he doesn't help her financially or in any other way. if she goes out she has to tell him where she is going. and is she has to call him as soon as she returns. and if he feels she took "too long" he'll yell at her and accuse her of cheating on him. crazy situation i know.

current problem: the kids are off from school. my aunt who works all year, was going to watch them for thenext 2 weeks. but she decided to go to florida. she is entitled to vacation. by the way she too lives in my house. she is moving out now in september. she didn't tell us she was going to florida. she figured that if she left quietly my mom would stay and watch the kids without a problem. well she was wrong. my mother was enraged that my aunt went on vacation. this was friday. i told my mom that i took thur and fri off, so she could leave on wed to pa to see her boyfriend. when i wake up sat morning, i see that the room is empty. then i look at my desk and find a note. she left me a note saying that she was taking my brother to his father and going to "talk" to her boyfriend and she's very sorry. i was so angry. i could not believe it. she knows that i do not have enough time accrued to take off from my job for the next 2 weeks. the job that PAYS the bills in the house she LIVES in. she took it upon herself to decide that seeing her boyfriend was more important than anything else. all because her boyfriend was upset. the boyfriend that didn't take her in. the one who borrows money from her and doesn't pay her back. well you know what, she is going to have to stay with him now, because i am not going to take her back. i refuse to take her back. the boyfriend is not allowed to house children in his apartment because it's senior housing. in addition to that he doesn't like children! he can't stand his own children or grandchildren for that matter! so my mother will have to give my brother to his father. he'll be better off there anyway. i felt bad before i didn't want that to happen. but you know what i have to preserve my marriage, my family must come first. sorry for the long post.