Hi Jinny, your parents didn't give you what you needed because of their problems. They didn't give you what you needed because you didn't deserve it. Every child deserves the best possible upbringing. Many of us didn't get it, however, because our parents had problems that they didn't deal with correctly (and they got these problems because of their parents!).

You can learn to love yourself (inner child work). We do learn to love and take care of ourselves by our parents loving and taking care of us but even if they do not we can still learn how to do it. You deserve to be loved and taken care of and you can learn how to do it.

You sound angry and feel like you have no right to be?