thanks to all of you for taking the time to read my long post and responding to it. i am still very upset at my mother. i spoke to my dad today and he told me that my plan is correct. he told me that i should put my marriage and children first. he told me that he would never impose himself on me. he told me that he feels that my mother was a very negative person and that since she moved into my home, it brought many problems to my marriage. he was so right!!