I do have a wonderful christain counselor. We have started to talk about things. I got the leteer from dad after I came home from a session with her yeaterday. My husband read the letter because I knew if I did I would have a meltdown. He only told me two things that Dad said in a three page letter. I am also calling my counselor today to see if I can get in today. Why is families so mean. This is what I think, when a child has something wrong with them like DID, Bi-Polar, Depression, or whatever it may be, They feel like failures and they want the persons child to raise so that they can feel that it's not something they did. In my case it's my mother. She wasn't there for me in all my life. She was only there when she wanted to be. And I know that's why she wanted my son. And when I tell her,which I don't anymore, that she is trying to make herself feel better by raising my son. Now my son suffers from depression and she is always taking him to a therepist to get different meds when he has an outburst. Well his therepist now says he is ADD. Mom doesn't want to deal with it with talk therepy. All she wants is a pill to fix it. It's the same thing that happened with me and I am so worried that my son isn't getting what he needs. You know what they say, history has a way of repeating itself.