I hate the "safe" thing... I don't feel safe many places, it's more with certain people.

I think it's not fearing rejection and judgement. I think it's got to do with trust. I think feeling and being safe are different things ... but feeling safe, to me, means I can say whats on my mind. But I think almost total trust needs to be built first. And talking about past issues, especially bad ones, is *always* hard, even if you do feel safe enough to do it. My being safe means I don't go out of my way to hurt myself. One place or situation where I will not try to hurt myself, where I am allowed to just "be" as I am.

I probably just talked around in circles...

But is there any *PLACE* where you feel safe Candika? Do you feel safe with T? Or with others maybe?