Sunny, I think my problem isn't so much setting boundaries, but expressing my opinion when it is different than what other people have just said. This can be similar to setting boundaries. I think I unconsciously hold back my opinion because I think that will be pleasing to other people.

However, what I've learned and observed is that (I'm mostly thinking of work settings) co-workers end up respecting and wanting to work with people who do express their opinions. In the end, they appreciate the person who is honest and open more than someone who just agrees. You might find out it is the same with setting boundaries. If you consistantly stand firm with some people (your daughter, co-workers, etc) in the end, and maybe it will take a long time, they'll respect you even more. Just a thought.....