(((((((((((Kax))))))))))))))

It never was a failure, you just slipped up is all. Even stopping cutting for three days is an achievement and you should see it as that. Also, I'm sorry about you struggling to help your friend. I know you must really want to help her but sometimes you just have to put yourself first and make yourself stable before you can help others. I think helping your friend is putting you under unnecessary pressure here. I think as long as you are there for her and she knows she can talk with you and you not judge her, that's all you have to do .

hope you feel better soon.