hi folks,

I was inspired to write this post by zh's thread and a discussion on another thread. Over the last months I have expressed a lot of difficult history here at Psych Central (to you long suffering folks), and there are just a few bits still popping into my head.

Some people might find this quite funny in a black humour kind of way.

So, for as long as I can remember I haven't been able to say my deceased father's name. I can't actually form the word in my mouth. I'm OK with other names but I can't say that one for the life of me. His name was 'Bobby'. (Even writing it sends a few shivers).

So my daughter has had a really nice boyfriend for the past year and they are now living together, I really like him. Guess what his name is? You've got it - 'Bobby'.
Not being able to say his name was a real embarrassment at first so I had to make an arrangement with them that I call him 'Robby'. They are OK with this.

But what's in a name? Robbie is fine, and I can say it, sing it, write it - but that other name - I still can't say it.

I wondered this morning. What would I have felt like if my son couldn't say my name?

Shiver.

Anyone else have strategies for the name thing?

Cheers, Myzen.