((daffyok))

I'm sorry that your experience with the therapist isn't helping.
Have you tried to talk to her about it? Maybe ask her for a referral to another therapist -- someone who specializes in grief work?

I had a thought, that is rather personal, so please forgive me if this sounds strange.

Since your father passed the day after your boyfriend gave you his bad news, is it possible that those two events are connected in your mind? The way the brain works storing memories is a bit of a mystery, but I have found that unrelated events will get 'stuck' together in my head just because of their proximity.

One other thought, that has been useful to me in dealing with a breakup -- Try writing out a list of resentments. This is an idea borrowed from the 4th step of AA (The Moral Inventory).

1st Column: The person you have resentments toward
2nd Column: The thing/event you are holding on to/resent the person for
3rd Column: How this made you feel
4th Column: What is My part in this

Start by filling out the first 3 columns, and leave the 4th column for later.

When I did this for my BF, I had over 100 resentments, and I was able to identify a pattern of my own behavior that wasn't helpful. Somehow writing it down in this structured manner helped my brain process the swirl of overwhelming thoughts.

HTH -- My thoughts are with you!