i hate to read but if theres any self help book i need to be reading its the Bible. it feeds my spirit & its help straight from God himself. also as far as feeling better mentally & physically exercise helps me so much. it boosts every aspect of day to day life for me. the endorphins adrenaline brain chemicals & meds all work together well. i have more energy feel better about myself think clearer & keeps depression from consuming me. also i cant leave out going to church regularly & talking with different people where i live. weve moved to 5th ave in our town (river street) & i actually talk to people now & they talk to me whereas before we lived on the dead end street where i was just isolated & the only people i saw were the people who lived on that street & they acted like they were better than us. also touching base with my family & getting together for dinner & spending time with them & actually having a hobby for once that ive found in taking care of my flowers outside. my 10 month old likes to ride around in my dads van so sometimes i ride downtown with him & it gives me free time just to relax & enjoy riding around while baby likes it too. ive been wanting to help people in small ways like taking baby to visit elderly neighbors but i havent done this yet. its helps me to make someone else happy by doing something simple. this is where i need the most work cuz im just not much on visiting at all & i have an 82 year old grandma thats a gem that i dont even visit--just rarely. i know she wont always be here but i just let time keep slipping away saying ill go tomorrow or this winter im gonna visit her all the time or next summer im gonna sit on the porch with her in the evenings. i need help bad in this area. when i do make myself visit i force myself & then while im there im just wanting to go back home. i guess self help for me is doing things to make me & my life well rounded. one other thing --listening to my body & taking a nap when baby naps or just laying down & resting instead of runnin around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to get this & that done while shes asleep. im no good to her if i dont take care of me.