If she is so much like you, can you see any of the traits that you see as her problem areas in yourself? I'm not saying that you are Borderline, but just trying to gently point out that when we have conflicts with someone who is a lot like ourselves, the same thing that bugs us about them is often the same thing that bugs them about us.

And we can't fix it in them, although it is natural to try, any more than they can fix it in us. Everybody has to look at themselves objectively and do their own growth.

I hope this isn't too far off-topic. I'm only bringing this up because I can see a possibility for the door opening to give you and your daughter another chance. I hope I am seeing that correctly. And if so, you may need to be ready to make the most of that chance.

And I think that what I am pointing out here is a very common phenomenon that happens to everyone. Also, remember that the things you like about your daughter are probably some of your own best qualities too. Like that ability to find the humor in something that overall isn't really funny, and to use that humor to keep your attitude positive.