Thank you, Sunrise. Your experience is very similar to mine. I am not going through a divorce, but some people in my life are starting to think I should be. It's hard because I do want to hear what they have to say. Sometimes they have information that I don't have, and they're 'filling me in.' But when it's not what I want to hear, I just get more upset and confused. I've tried saying what you suggested: "I know you mean well...but..." but I'm not good at being direct about it. Probably because a part of me does want to hear the information they have to provide. I guess I send them mixed signals, then. Like, "Tell me everything you know, but make sure it's all good news!"

So I end up stopping myself from going to friends for support because I'm afraid they're going to tell me what I'm not ready to hear yet.