thanks for the replies

I had a feeling everyone would say calling her is a bad idea

and yes finding a new therapist might be the answer

in fact she refered me to another therapist at our last session

this whole infatuation combined with my ongoing depression and a 3 year old peeing everywhere in my house besides the toilet is putting a lot of weight on my already overburdened shoulders

I dont even have time or energy to offer support to my wife who has CFS/fibrom and gave up a promising nursing career

"just keep swimming....just keep swimming"

Brian