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and yes finding a new therapist might be the answer

in fact she refered me to another therapist at our last session

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Not "might" be the answer, really "is" the answer.
I think I would prefer to choose someone on my own rather than try to work with someone I associate with her in any way, because even that bit of a connection can cause instant and intese longings and resentments.
It would not be at all unusual to call T's and tell them that you are looking for someone who can initially help you with ET or obsession. They are out there, they understand, and they will help.