Yeah, I wonder the same thing. Earthmama, I am sooooo glad things went well and that T was helpful in letting you show anger.
I had a similar experience this week with T when I was talking about my ER experience and how I had felt betrayed and tricked by MD in being 'fed to the wolves' in some of the tests and how one of my alters (after said test) said about MD "I am NEVER speaking to her again!!! Never talking to 'that woman' ever, ever again!!!!" T's eyebrows got lost in her hair at those words (of my beloved MD) and how later in the ER when I was trying to contact MD because she had said she'd call to check in on me and hadn't by 5:20pm, I couldn't reach her and felt totally, totally abandoned. Not a feeling I usually allow. I told T all this and so we talked about how my life map that i've been given by my parents consists of either smothering, suffocating "love" that hurts, or the opposite of emotional neglect which feels like abandonment. "So", said T "I can see why you struggle with getting your needs met when you feel that if you can't meet them right then, it feels like abandonment." And went on to talk about these relationships I am forming with MD and T and how they are steady and I am supposed to be able to tell them when I am angry with them.... and that is ok. I still can't do it yet. When MD did call me, all that fell away. I never told her I was upset. When T didn't call on her vacation (again) like she said she would, I didn't tell her. And yet she wants me too. I don't get it. But maybe I'll learn one day.
Earthmama, you seem to be breaking the learning curve and getting through these lessons quickly!!!! Kudos!!!!!

that was a far longer post than i had intended to write. sorry!!!