(((((((((((((((((((((((((( kiya ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I think it would be such a big, positive step if you could tell T that it hurt you when she didn't call. You and T have a great relationship, and this would be a great chance for you to experience what happens when you are in a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP and you tell someone they have upset you.

I remember pretty early in T, T did some things in a Friday session that made me think that he was literally trying to get rid of me - trying to make me quit therapy. It hurt so much, and I spent a weekend in tears over it. When I went in on the following Monday, I asked him about it, even though it made me so uncomfortable.....and instead of turning it around and blaming me, or accusing me of being too sensitive or needy, or getting angry at me for bringing it up....he apologized. He explained why the session went the way it did. He apologized again. He joked that he should just close the practice because it was THE worst therapy he'd given. And he apologized again. He never turned it around on me, or made me feel bad for bringing it up.

I think that's how it works in HEALTHY relationships. I think this is one of the things we get to learn with T that we didn't learn in our families. Our feelings are real and valid.

You can do it, Kiya.