Hi Malady,

This is the problem that i'm having bigtime now- every time someone doesn't understand something that a part does or just gets unreasonably angry and dumps on or even threatens me i switch to a little one. It's an unconcious thing. i can't help it. i need to find a way not let this happen because we're getting so upset and exhausted, losing it and crying in public out loud like a baby every day- because my family is not helping , not supportive at all.
When a little is out, they don't think that there is a big one. i remember later that my little opened a car door in the middle of the road and stepped out and cried uncontrollably yesterday in the middle of the afternoon near my workplace after being picked up from work.

Today a little cried like that again- a horribly loud and out of control sobbing because of threatening unfair personal criticism and negativity at home. We can't handle it when we're little. i don't know how to change it because i don't have communication. i wish it didn't happen. It is the worst feeling that you can ever have. It's like there is no one in the world that cares about you. There's so much a lack of control it's scary.

You're right, it isn't fair for a child part to take that kind of a. but it happens with me a lot and i don't know what to do to change it. i can't control switching or comfort my littles because they don't know me.

It's a mess. i wish i knew what to do.

kerria
(we've been away for a while and sometimes too afraid to post again. It always seems to end up that there aren't any answers for the dilemmas that we get ourselves into).