lashaine,

All you said sounds so familiar. When I got married my husband finally learned to make a 3 day max. limit on trips to the town I grew up in. Visits with my parents always ended up with me in tears or a migraine and all messed up emotionally.

I will be happy to be "extra" family to you here. I had to find all my real family some place far away from fam.of origin. They were so toxic.

I'm glad you realized how unsafe the dad is - what you described was certainly physical abuse to hit you so hard is just awfu. He was soo wrong!!!

The more you learn to protect yourself the better you will come off on these trips back to the old place. Then you can help your children learn to protect themselves from him too!!

I hope tomorrow is a decent day for you!

Leslie and Pixies