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Old Aug 22, 2008, 10:37 PM
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(((((MissCharlotte))))) She is a wonderful T. I woke up from a bad dream in the middle of the night and emailed her. I told her that I just needed her to know about my feelings and the flashbacks it caused. After DBT group on Thursday she asked how I was doing and talked to me for a few minutes. I really appreciated that.

Thanks happysappy and Mouse.

Sannah, I think you are right about having to have a thick skin when it comes to the abuse. I know that I work on not feeling anything so I can survive. I definitely cried because I felt like she was taking care of me. It's not that other people don't try to do that, but I don't allow them to. I am allowing her to take care of me.

ECHOES, I usually feel like crying when others act in a caring, generous way toward me but I don't usually let myself actually cry. I think it would be a good topic to explore too.

It took me a while to get back to this post because I gave my 2 weeks notice at work and have been dealing with the emotions that are surrounding that. I thought for sure that my T would try to talk me out of quitting but much to my amazement, she agreed that it would be taking care of myself to quit my part time job. Talk about wanting to cry (but I didn't that time).

I'm trying to work on allowing myself to feel my feelings and cry when I feel like it in therapy. It feels like a very safe place. And I feel like the crying would be quite cathartic.
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"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

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