Hey Jinnyann,

Sometimes I feel embarrassed when I have to ask for help and support. But, when I read the others replies to you I see nothing but affection and a genuine desire to be supportive.

It is really ok to just accept all people give you. They are giving freely and from affection for you. Maybe you should just accept the support and support yourself the same way. If things were reversed and one of us needed lots of spoken support, you would give it freely.

I don't think you are asking for too much at all. Hang in there, friend and it will get better. I'm in a similar place where I want to support other and yet I also need to ask for a lot of support too. Sigh....

Since when did the word needy become a bad word? It is not wrong to have needs or to ask for someone to help meet needs. But, somewhere along the way it got dicey to ask for help and ask for support and that is just not right. We all need support especially coming from rough and painful backgrounds as many of us did.

OK, I'm climbing down off the soapbox now, end of sermonette!!

Leslie and her Pixies