I hope so mouse. Tear it off together. Or even start to hold the "yes, AND" space in your mind/heart... where yes, t is not mom, and yes, t went on vacation, and yes, chances are she's not going to feel bad about that AND....
AND she can know how much you hurt. And she can still be with you. And you can tear the old wounding off and let that pain heal underneath.
(((((((((((((((((mouse))))))))))))))))))))))