(((((Dawntreader)))))safe hugs

Hi. i wish i had the answer - what to tell people when i switch. Switching happens even more when we're upset about something - try to calm down and not worry about what anyone thinks if you can. You're under enough stress and it's too hard to take on any more problems.

It's too confusing and complicated for me to try to manage all of my parts' behaviour too. People should know that you're stressed now and excuse how you're acting.
Dawntreader, i'm so sorry that it's so hard now. i hope that things calm down inside and get better. If you could find support it would be good. That's the good thing about having a therapist. A T. can help by talking to parts when you can't and find out why they do what they do and sometimes even help them stop doing things that make us upset/angry/or look crazy to others/or mess up our lives.
Some persons with DID can communicate with their parts and 'ask inside' and find out why parts do what they do and try to bargain with parts. i never understood how that worked. i can't communicate with parts either. It's really difficult to explain to other people. They usually never understand. The less that you say - the better. Never tell anyone that you have DID without carefully going over the repercussions of them knowing. I've never told anyone willingly and it hasn't helped when people find out- that's my experience. They don't understand and it just makes things worse. People don't need to know anything. Just say something like, "i've been really upset ." That should be enough.

For now, please know that we hear you and understand how hard it is- that you can't help it- and that it's not your fault. It's a reaction to the stress and your parts or alters (what ever term you use) have a right to live and express themselves also. It's really difficult having to live with separate parts.

Please be safe and try to give yourself grace.
BTW- i love your name.

Take care,
kerria