I felt I had to post in this thread... perhaps.. it is the OCD... this feeling of "having to" or perhaps I feel so strongly about this subject.

I have no fear.... because I have already had the worse.. of the worse happen to me...I know.. how things feel when I am hurt.. and.. it doesn't scare me...I go numb...

And.. I know in a fight for my life.. or for my own... I would show no mercy.... because my brain would turn to "survival mode"... and thought processes... no longer happen...at that point.

Muffy... you did nothing wrong... and your tender mom heart is hurting.. and I am so sorry..

When my son was in 6th grade... in the gym.... with a teacher watching.. a boy.. kicked my son in his privates.. and I was called.. and.. I had to take him to hospital.... yes.. so great the pain.. so great.. the damage...

This was a "safe" place... with a "safe" person watching.. school said "boys will be boys"...

I at that point.. taught my son to fight... yes.. a Mom.. teaching her son.. how to fight.. how to.. fight hard...and yes.. thru the years there were black eyes.. and other things from fights.. and I don't regret it... my city.. it is what it is..and when he became an adult I worried.. because he is powerful.. and can do a great deal of damage..

But I also taught him a "moral" code... never start a fight.. if you can talk your way out of it.. do... and if you can leave do it.. and I know he follows that... yet.. there are fights...so in my viewpoint... he needs this skill of fighting..

My point.. is.. that the "world" in my viewpoint... is not going to change..... I am for peace... but do not feel.. I will see it in my lifetime.....

Being... prepared... for me... that is the key.....

((((muffy and muffy's son))))